Sunday, January 25, 2009

So I have a story to tell you....

Once upon a time there was a girl who wanted to find a boy to love her as she believed in love even after all she had experienced in might even say she was unlucky in she posted at an online dating site looking for him. She is the kind of girl who likes to fly by the seat of her pants and did it on a whim.

You see her problem is this...she was in the middle of a divorce from years in a loveless marriage and has 2 kids who keep her busy during the week so she doesn’t really know where to find that love of her life, and she feels bars and clubs are not the place to find it. She believes that everyone is the love of someone’s life, you just have to come upon that person like serendipity. While this might be naive on her part, it is how she feels and she doesn’t want to become cynical.

So she posted and lo and behold, several possible suitors contacted her. One in particular stood out among the rest. They could talk for literally hours without having a loss for words. The more they got to know of each other, the more it seemed they were a near perfect match for what the other was looking for. After a couple days, they met and a whirlwind romance ensued and she fell head over heels....his smile could turn her to putty. But he did not fall as she did, he only partly fell, and then held himself away from her and hurt her many times because he was selfish and fickle with his affection for her. He was in turmoil because he was also divorcing from a bad marriage and after meeting this girl he prayed to find who seemed to fit everything he wanted in a love, he realized what he wanted most in life right now was to be alone, so he let her slip through his fingers. She decided she was not a toy to be played with and told him goodbye once and for all, and they never spoke again.

She has dated a few others, but nothing that has been able to get off the ground. She wants that amazing spark of chemistry again, to feel that intensity again. And once someone feels it, it’s like a drug you keep searching to find again.

And now we come to the present day. Her life has changed much since then; the divorce is almost finished up and she knows more what she wants out of life. She has a wonderful job working for a nonprofit organization and she is going to school to make a life better for herself and her children.

But she keeps coming back in her thoughts to finding that love. She wants someone to share her life with, to grow old with, to love and be loved, someone who the mere thought of gives her butterflies every single time. She wants someone who isn’t perfect by any means, but just right for her -- who wants the same things out of life as she does. She wants someone who loves cuddling and snuggling and touching and holding hands and kissing like her, who thinks these things are important.

She wants someone who loves to wander through bookstores with her. She wants someone who loves learning, who finds continuous knowledge important and someone who loves discussing and debating these things and who enjoys playing board games and having fun doing it. She wants someone who will put her as a priority and never dream of telling her to go home at 4 in the morning because he wants to be alone. She wants someone who is not scared of children, who might even have his own and definitely wants at least one or two more in the future if this turned into forever. She wants someone who loves movies and music and reading and to share these things with someone else as much as she does. She wants someone who is not into religion, as she is an atheist and eventually religion can divide when it comes to future children.

To tell you a little about her....her secret desires are to be a writer and to learn to play the guitar. She is a strong woman who feels things deeply, never mediocre, and she is passionate about many things and sometime you will see a fire spark within her when deep in a discussion about something she loves. She is 32 yrs old and short at 5’2, and she has short red hair streaked in blonde (though underneath it all, she is an actual blonde). She has eyes the color of the deep of the ocean and a great smile and she loves to laugh. She is curvy with a few extra pounds, but she works out and eats healthy and she carries herself well. She’s a happy person, sees the world as an optimist and can’t help but believe in true love. She loves to create and design altered art, and she blogs regularly. She has been told many times she has a sexiness about her that makes men notice her...though in reality, she thinks she’s a total dork.

She’s kind of crazy in that she loves to sing along in the car to her iPod and the radio, and she makes up stories about the songs she hears. She loves lyrics, they make her feel things deeply. Her favorites are Jason Mraz, Joshua Radin, John Mayer, Iron and Wine, the Weepies, Erin McCarley, Ingrid Michaelson, and other acoustic singer songwriters. She misses having someone to see live music with together.

She wants a guy who is taller than her, who is in his 30s, can still be a big kid and be funny and sarcastic with a dry wit but can also be sweet and romantic....And most of all, she wants someone ready for a long term relationship who is just as passionate as she is. He doesn’t have to be perfect, as she likes a guy with meat on his bones, but he knows what he wants and is sure of himself, and wants her as much as she wants him.

So the one question is.....are you him? Come find her....she’s waiting.

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